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10th Anniversary of My BFIM Site – New Direction: Culling and Living Smart

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10th Anniversary of My BFIM Site – New Direction: Culling and Living Smart

This is a scanned Polaroid pic of me back in the very late 1990s in Delaware. Please forgive the condition of it, but there I sit at my sewing machine table on a scorching hot dog day of summer day. I know the temperature outside because of my tank top and toasted skin. LOL! My ex-husband had also just given me this necklace that a friend of his sent to me as a gift from Bendel state in Nigeria, so that also helps me to pinpoint the date.

Anyway, I post this old pic as an indicator of a major turning point with the content of my site and focus. In a few days, it’ll be the 10th anniversary of my blackfemaleinterracialmarriage.com site. Yes, I started this leg of my life’s journey way back in July 2006! It’s been a rip-roaring segment of my life. Thank all of you for joining me for portions of it and contributing to the many rich discussions and experiences.

And wow–I have learned so much from all of you, about African American women! Primarily, I’ve learned so much [Read more…]

Marriage, Intellectual Riches, Legacy

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Marriage, Intellectual Riches, Legacy

Here are my husband, Darren, and Adanna, my granddaughter, when she was 20 months old. Of her 3 granddads, I think she views him as the granddad who is her buddy, her BFF. He has endless patience with her, teaches her math concepts, spends time helping her put puzzles together, build Lego structures, tells her the names of different plants when they go walking, talks to her about the needs and personality of each plant, plays ball with her, acts like a silly goose with her, splashes in the swimming pool with her and gives her tips on water safety, etc. He is helping her to develop a thought system about the world that teaches her that knowing things, learning about nature, knowing how things operate and how each thing connects with other things, and that participating in various activities are all very important.

He could just as well spend that time with her playing a video game or watching TV, except that he knows that would be of much less value to her. Watching TV is a spectator activity. Motivating her to use her brain to connect dots about abstract concepts and the environment helps her to develop a way of viewing the world and to more confidently participate in it. What has this got to do with marriage, you might wonder. Well, [Read more…]