Typical Wm Who Marry Black Women Marry Average Black Women & What is “Natural?”

MOST women in the entire world are average looking because that’s what average means.

This is why the pics that I show of wm-bw marriages mostly all feature average looking people. I look average too–better on some days and not so great on others, depending on how I’m feeling, what I’m doing, how much makeup I’m wearing, etc.

Can you believe that some black folks write to me accusing me of ONLY posting pics of wm who marry browner or darker bw–and not light-skinned or whiter skinned bw like Mariah Carey?? LOL! Unbelievable! I post all the pics I’m sent.

These wm marry the women THEY want. I have no control over that. Where are the pictures of these wm-light-bw marriages???? I’ve posted some of them, but obviously there aren’t nearly as many of them as wm choosing browner and darker women.

Remember that the overwhelming most bw come in about 380 shades of browner and darker AND if these wm were only interested in whiter skinned women, they would simply restrict themselves to whiter-skinned women–like white women. DUH!

Read it and weep!

NOW HEAR THIS: there are just as many dark and brown women who are beautiful women as there are other women who are beautiful and just because YOU are blind to that doesn’t mean that wm are willing to be blind to that too. Remember that choosing a mate based on only or mainly complexion indicates a deeper “issue” that, thankfully, plenty of men in the world do NOT have.

Darren does NOT have that issue; that’s why he chose to marry a brown-skinned, average looking woman like me–who he selected for my qualities and substance, in addition to other attributes. I chose him for the same reasons.

Many sensible men in the world consider a QLL average looking woman to be a “prize.” Just look around at the mates men choose. Those men were not out there hunting and pecking for beauty queens; instead they seek QUALITY and SUBSTANCE in women because people with common sense know that quality and substance are the keys to a living well life; they are priceless traits for a woman or man to have.

Many sensible wm these days are not going to overlook quality and substance in average looking bw. This is why there has been a 40% increase in bw-wm marriages between the years 2000 and 2005 (according to an Indiana TV news station that reported recently on bw-wm marriages.)

And now that lots more bw have become more receptive to QLL wm, these numbers are increasing.

This is despite the highly cited OK Cupid dating site results that many biased naysayers use to try to convince bw to think that wm just don’t find bw attractive or dateable. This is a lie. Stanford Law professor, Ralph Richard Banks, in his book: Is Marriage for White People? debunked those stats by pointing out that: 90% of the wm who indicated a preference said they wouldn’t date a bw, HOWEVER ALMOST 50% of wm did NOT indicate ANY preference.

If I were a bw who was interested in dating out these days, I would interpret that to mean that of those 50% of wm who didn’t indicate any preference, there’s a high probability that some of them are open to the idea of dating a QLL bw, and I know I’m a QLL bw. There are other bw like me.

So why is it that no one talks about the 50% of white men who didn’t indicate any preference??? Hmmmm? My husband, Darren, would have been one of those wm, obviously OR he would have been in the 10% who flat out said they were interested in bw. So when you add up the 10% of wm on OK Cupid who indicated they were interested in bw PLUS the ones among the wm who didn’t indicate ANY preference, that indicates that there is a huge pool of wm available for bw to date in the USA.

And any woman only needs JUST ONE QLL man at a time.

Now, that’s how I interpreted those results, but many non-critically thinking bw fell for the okey-doke that wm don’t find bw attractive or dateable and that the only men who might want a bw is from the same-ole pool. SMH

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Re My Last Post–

Anyway, I knew I’d receive ridiculous responses to my last post re race is a social construct/fabrication, and here’s one from CJ that is typical.

Your quote that race is a fabrication is not accurate. There are real difference internally within the races. We are humans who walk by sight. So therefore it is natural for us to be more comfortable with our own race. How do you think races came to be in the first place. One person goes with another who is in their same environment.Anyway I like the fact that you encourage bw to look at men of all backgrounds.

CJ, my assumption is that you are a “black” person? A “black” woman? LOL! Well, you are entitled to your own beliefs because as I said, there are many black and white people (and others) who won’t allow facts to get in the way of their beliefs about “race.” Beliefs are NOT facts; they’re simply what a person believes, and most of what we believe or practically everything we think we know–has been TAUGHT to us by others who are simply passing on someone else’s opinions.

Everyone needs to keep that in mind.

I’m not even going to cause you to babble by asking you to state ANY of these supposed “real internal differences” between blacks and whites. I already know you won’t be able to cite any essential differences because not even scientists have been able to do that. Not even reputable white scientists, not even the ones of them who happen to harbor racist sentiments–have been able to cite “facts.”

My first inkling was to ignore you because you are SO clueless about facts, however, allowing people like you to flood the online and offline airwaves without rebutting your poisonous cluelessness is exactly why typical AA social circles have degenerated into poison pits, unfit for human life to thrive.

I am not a person who “walks by sight” when I make important choices and as the epigraph in ALL of my books says: the choice of a mate is THE singlemost important decision any woman makes . . . .. So, if I were to interpret “walk by sight” the way you do, I’d be in the same hell pit as the vast majority of AA women in this country who continue to suffocate and dry up inside their comfortable, indoctrinated Blackistan circles since they choose to mate with mates from their hellish social pits.

The only reason why some black and white people in this country feel more comfortable with each other is due to what they’ve LEARNED because of racism. They’ve LEARNED to be more comfortable around certain human beings who have more or less melanin–in order to support racism and its many offspring. Just like these folks have learned that, they could choose to learn something different–IF they think it’s worth it to them. It’s a CHOICE.

Prior to a few hundred years ago, there was no such perspective as different “races.” That is not the way people viewed other people from other parts of the world in those days. There have, of course, always been people who looked somewhat different than others (African, Asians, Europeans, etc.) due mainly to climactic factors in the areas where they’d lived for thousands of years. The different “races” were an invention, a fabrication, a construction by racist “whites” who labeled some people “blacks” and others “whites” in order to justify the stupendous profits from the slave trading business, which afforded Europeans WHITE PRIVILEGES–at the expense of darker people. The definitions of “Blacks” and “whites” were invented for this reason.

And white privilege is still with us today–not just because of SOME whites–but because of many, many black people and others like YOU who slurp up everything that whites say and do and put whites and all things lighter and whiter on a pedestal. Of course, it makes a mountain of sense for whites to cooperate with the status quo “race” construction because it is the KEY to maintaining their standard of living, their privileges for themselves and their offspring. But why oh why do “black” people like you do it?????? The only reason why you consider yourself internally different is because racist whites have told you that you are internally different. LOL! You have internalized the label THEY gave you and now you’re trying to convince me to be as du—-no, I’ll use a nice word–unconscious, as you are.

You unconscious “black” people, ought to be ashamed of yourselves (for not reading and educating yourself about this) and for continuing to support such a system that resulted and results in the supreme degradation of “black” people. But I know that people like you have no shame, however since you are unconscious and obviously plan to stay that way, can’t you at least stay QUIET and not reveal how unconscious you are? Just asking.

There are NUMEROUS AA women who have many, many more common VALUES, perspectives on life, lifestyles, etc. and are thus much more compatible with many white and other nonblack or non-AA men out there than they will ever be with a typical AA man. But it’s your exact type of demented thinking (as you expressed in your note) that is constantly preached to typical AA women that causes so many of them to mate or marry DOWN–just to be with an AA man, who they are indoctrinated to believe is their NATURAL mate. They believe this because they’ve been told this over and over and over.

Why is it natural ONLY for AA women to mate with men from their ethnic group when it’s obviously not considered natural by almost half of the Asian women in the USA to mate with and marry Asian men, for example, or for the 25% of AA men who are married to non-black women, not to even count the number of AA men who date out exclusively and cohabit with non-black women?????? Do YOU ever think critically? Do you ever ask yourself or those other black folks who are constantly beating the “it’s only NATURAL for an AA woman to mate with an AA man” drum WHY do they single AA women out ONLY???????

For ex. a young AA woman I know who is studying for her CPA license just became engaged to a young AA man who lacks a high school diploma among other deficits. That is NOT surprising because roughly 50% of AA males in this country have chosen not to graduate from high school and in some urban areas, that number goes up to 75%. And please don’t start with the excuses! These males have CHOSEN not to graduate because there is NO ONE stopping them from remaining in school. Even if they had to drop out due to circumstances beyond their control YESTERDAY, today is another day. AA women go back to school every day of the week. Why don’t AA men do that??????? It’s their choice that they choose NOT to go on for more or higher education TODAY! They claim they don’t have the money, yet they spend oodles of money on stupid stuff.

The bottom line is that the bulk of AA males SHOW that they don’t VALUE education, yet of course, they prefer bw who do have education because they know that a bw with more education is much more likely to be working with steady increases in pay, good credit, nice living quarters, etc.

This is role reversal. The woman (and these days, she can be of any “race” or group) becomes the provider and protector and the male plays the feminized role of being fed and protected by the women. This often leads to the male feeling that he must “act” in a hypermasculine, aggressive way in order to show any semblance of manhood.

*****Keep in mind, I’m NOT talking about ALL AA males here; I’m only talking about the ones who fit this profile and many of those feminized males are regarded as NATURAL mates for AA women BECAUSE how many other AA males are even out there in the first place???????

Another major okey-doke that many AA males have tried to clobber bw with these days is this pretense that they don’t care about a bw’s education or about how much money she makes. PLEASE! If you believe that, you will believe ANYTHING.

There is no SANE reason why a young bw who has struggled to get through college and has graduated with a degree in accounting and is now studying for a CPA license should even think about spending any romantic time with a man who lacks a high school diploma!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I would bet my house that he will pull her DOWN, and in a short time. Even if he’s the nicest man on earth–and may be able to make her delirious with his so-called bm “special” foot rubs–LOL!–these two people are NOT compatible. She WILL be the provider. And most thinking people KNOW that. However, black people around this young woman don’t seem to see anything abnormal about this situation. LOL!! Insane!

And CJ, why would someone like you–who believes that blacks and whites/nonblacks “are real different internally”–come to my site? I find it astounding that a bw like you would be interested in dating, loving, marrying, and having children with a white/nonbm when you believe that whites and blacks “are real different internally.”

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