Black Female Interracial Marriage

April 15, 2016 By evia

Marriage, Intellectual Riches, Legacy

Here are my husband, Darren, and Adanna, my granddaughter, when she was 20 months old. Of her 3 granddads, I think she views him as the granddad who is her buddy, her BFF. He has endless patience with her, teaches her math concepts, spends time helping her put puzzles together, build Lego structures, tells her the names of different plants when they go walking, talks to her about the needs and personality of each plant, plays ball with her, acts like a silly goose with her, splashes in the swimming pool with her and gives her tips on water safety, etc. He is helping her to develop a thought system about the world that teaches her that knowing things, learning about nature, knowing how things operate and how each thing connects with other things, and that participating in various activities are all very important.

He could just as well spend that time with her playing a video game or watching TV, except that he knows that would be of much less value to her. Watching TV is a spectator activity. Motivating her to use her brain to connect dots about abstract concepts and the environment helps her to develop a way of viewing the world and to more confidently participate in it. What has this got to do with marriage, you might wonder. Well, [Read more…]

March 28, 2016 By Evia

MICOMSA’s Success! RUCOSS is Critically Needed. Butterflitia Marches On

Thanks for this YT LINK, Lorraine that normalizes black women taking advantage of their options to be chosen by or to mingle and mate with who they feel is best for them. For me, this is so normal, but maybe that’s because I was married to, lived, and raised children with a man from another vastly different culture in his country and in his cultural milieu in this country for 25 years.

So, to me, it’s just weird that some people still struggle internally when they see black women with [Read more…]

February 19, 2016 By Evia

Two BWIM Sisters & Congratulations to New President of ABC!!

Thanks, Felicia for sending these links!

Congratulations to Channing Dungey who has been become the New President of the ABC Entertainment Group

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Channing Dungey and Husband, Scott Power (Brand Strategist, Producer, Entrepreneur, Explorer, Ironman Triathlete, Author, Philanthropist)

I‘m wishing Ms. Dungey uncanny wisdom and skill in the overseeing, production, and selection of scads of positive and popular content for ABC Entertainment along with the crucial accompaniment of the high ratings for those shows containing the positive content that many people clamor for and claim to want. LOL!

However, not only did Channing Dungey marry on the IR Slice, but so did her sister.

“When they were little, Channing Dungey and her sister Merrin would scour the fall preview issue of TV Guide to plan the shows they wanted to watch for the season. Dungey would make a grid of favorites to help her negotiate with her sister and parents for time slots.”

Sister, Merrin Dungey & brother-in-law: Matt Drake

Merrin and Matt Wedding ARTICLE

February 9, 2016 By Evia

KWELI TV–YAY! The Valentine Day Ritual, Another BWIR Normalizing Video

Thanks, Lorraine for the link to this video about chocolates that also normalizes BWIR relationships. It certainly made me think about Valentine’s Day and Darren in the same thought because–he’s such a chocolate FIEND! I always get him his favorite Godiva chocolates 3 times each year, starting with Valentine’s Day. I also get them for his birthday and for a holiday gift in December. Each time I give them to him, his whiskey brown eyes light up and dance. He loves Godiva chocolates ONLY, so nothing else will suffice. Sorry, Cadbury. Lol

I remember once, I didn’t feel like driving 15 miles to the mall to get Godivas, so I picked up another brand of chocolates from the nearby CVS. OMG–he [Read more…]

January 28, 2016 By Evia

New Mommy Tyra Banks! The Gritty Slice & Nuances of “I Want a Man on My Level” & Other Wordings

I was thrilled to read this morning that Tyra Banks and her long-term boyfriend, Erik Asla (Norwegian photographer) are the new parents of a baby boy via a surrogate mother!! ARTICLE I was sad for Tyra last year when I read that she so passionately wanted to have children but was unable to conceive. At 41 then, her biological clock was taking its last gasps. She was undergoing the IVF treatments that she described as ‘traumatic.’

Well, this is an example of how money CAN actually buy life. LOL! Women with her resources can pay another woman to carry their fertilized egg. But hey, being a surrogate mom has become a lucrative new profession for some women. This is a win-win situation. This is a profession that even some older women can engage in because under the right circumstances, a healthy enough older woman (I’ve read of a few cases of women in their sixties doing this!!) can carry a fertilized egg and birth the child of a younger woman whose body is impaired in some way. I tell ya: A woman’s body is a magnificent creation! LOL!

As a marriage advocate, [Read more…]

December 21, 2015 By Evia

Happy Holidays! 2 ADs Normalizing BWIR, Note from Reader, Podcast

Thanks RG for the Macy’s AD pic for Calvin Klein fragrance normalizing a bw with a beau from the global village. I wonder which demographic(s) was the target for this ad. I know that all marketing campaigns have a major target group in mind.

Thanks CH for this Youtube VIDEO AD for a sleek FORD SUV. Hmm, I wonder whether this AD was pitched more at men than women? And I wonder whether it was pitched more at the wm demographic. I don’t believe it’s pitched at bw because it shows too many close-up shots of the woman. Instead, most hetero women would want to see LOTS of close-ups of HIM–not her! I’m just saying. LOL

It’s telling that you, a wm, found the video. LOL!
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Been a while since I dropped in here. I’ve been so busy creating items for our online store, vending at holiday craft events, writing, making holiday gifts for family members, fulfilling a few store orders, and WELCOMING my newest grandchild!!

Yep! I was in the delivery room [Read more…]

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November 9, 2015 By Evia

Marriage Announcement–CONGRATS! & Stats re AA Men’s OOW Biracial Children in the Social Services Pipeline

Thanks, Felicia for this NYT MARRIAGE Announcement.

Even though I’m busy these days with other projects, I’m trying to keep up with posting links that you and others send. So, I’m posting this one NOW! Lol

Sorry to all of you who have sent me material that I haven’t posted.

But let us all wish this couple a blissful life together. I’m so happy she has found her ONE!

Apparently, her husband had never gotten the bizarre memo that AA/bw women are somehow “unfit” for marriage and yadda, yadda.

I know that the bulk of normal men have never gotten that memo and those men who have a mind of their own, won’t pay attention to it even if someone shoves it in their face. The bottom line is there is NOTHING more powerful than evolutionary wiring and nature. Bw–be ever thankful for that! Her husband makes this clear in why he wooed her.

He said: “She was young, beautiful and [Read more…]

October 12, 2015 By Evia

Smart Women Never Lose the Lesson

Thanks, CH for pic of this American serviceman and his girlfriend.

They look so content to be with each other. It’s great to see people looking like this these days. LOL
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Recently received the note below from a reader, who is wrestling with a quite different human experience.

She thinks she has lost at love, but she hasn’t lost anything worth having. It never existed, except in her mind. A delusion. I shudder though at the 5+ years of precious womanly time she invested with this male. Whew! Since I wanted to do a post, I decided to write a response to her note and feature it here as a ‘slice-and-dice,’ of how failure-prone thinking directs lives towards failure, in the hopes that my analysis may be of service to others.

No person deserves to be treated like this. We were born noble, to be treated nobly, with respect, but failure-prone thinking will always invite predatory people and situations into our surroundings and make them comfortable around us.

We should all know that on the securing-a-quality-romantic-relationship front, 5 years of time for a woman is like 15 for a man because the reality is that there’s a shrinking pool of quality men available for women as we age. Blame it on evolutionary wiring and the life cycle, but the fact is that lots of men are surface-oriented, looking for younger women. There are CQLL men for women of all ages, but the reality is that the pool shrinks as we get older. Life is fair to the extent that [Read more…]

September 29, 2015 By Evia

Jim Crow Against Unambiguously Black Women. When Will Bw Take a Stand And Defend THEIR Interests?

UPDATE: Sept. 30, 2015

I initially wrote this post yesterday, but I’ve read on a few other sites where commenters are blaming these unambiguously black women for this club discriminating against them since they allowed their pics to be taken.

SMH–Folks always find a way to blame bw!

The fact is that we live in a time in the West where many people of all groups have slackened standards or none at all. Security is also an issue.

As a result, photos are required in more businesses and workplaces. Let’s not get confused. The problem was NOT that the photos were taken; the problem was the PURPOSE of the photos. They were used to discriminate against those ‘unambiguously black women.’ For those who don’t know the term: An ‘unambiguously black woman’ is a woman whose complexion and/or facial features, [Read more…]